Church can be a difficult place for single men. Among other things, single men are often denied leadership and other crucial roles in the church because of one thing: their singleness.
Because of I Tim 3:2, 12 and Titus 1:6, where church leaders are required to be the husbands of one wife. Many churches interpret these verses to mean that church leaders must be married men. In doing so, they ignore the context and the man who wrote those verses in addition to a large chunk of other scripture.
The man who wrote those verses was Paul, a single man who was a church leader. At the time he wrote those verses, polygamy was rampant. When he specified that church leaders must be the husband of one wife, he was not excluding women or single men from church leadership. He was just specifying that if a male church leader was married, he had to have only one wife.
Paul was not the only single man who wrote scripture and was a church leader. Daniel and Jeremiah were also single. The marital statuses of many of the other male authors of scripture is unknown. Then there’s Jesus. He is the leader of the church…and single.
Oh, and then there’s Ezekiel. He was widowed. Did his wife’s death disqualify him for church leadership?
How many churches who refuse to let single men be church leaders would remove their pastor and other church leaders from their positions of leadership if their wives died? If such churches exist, they are very rare.
Looking at the whole of scripture, it is one’s relationship with Christ and age, not marital status and gender that are requirements for church leadership.
By marginalizing singleness, churches are free restrict to leadership roles to married men and pressure men into marriage.